Fiancée Wants To Call Off Wedding Because Her Husband-To-Be Said He Would Save His Baby Niece Over Her Dog In A Hypothetical Fire

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    Posted by u/ThrowRA-Mili 6 days ago Fiancée F23 wants to call off wedding because because I 26M would save my 3YO niece before her dogs in a hypothetical fire... how can I explain to her my reasoning?
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    I recently got engaged to my fiancée about two months ago. Everything was fine until two days ago. She has two dogs and a cat. She loves them and essentially see them as her “fur babies". I like them too. I like pets in general but not to the extent of calling them my kids or anything like that... I personally find it ridiculous. But it's harmless... so whatever.
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    My sister has a 3YO daughter who literally adores me. She always so excited to see me and I get her gifts from time to time. My sister and her husband were going to an event and they left her with me and my fiancee for the few hours. She, I and my fiancee were watching a I movie and the subject of fire rescue came up.
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    For some awkward reason, she asked me if there was a fire who I would save first: her, my niece or her dogs? I told her I'd do my best to save the two of them: her and my niece. I would put my own life at risk to save them. She said what about the dogs. I told her I would try to save them but her and my niece come first and it's not even close.
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    She got mad and started saying I am putting my niece above my own family. I told her I don't know what her logic is but there is no way I would put the dogs, as much as I like them, above my niece, a little human being with whom I share 25 percent of my DNA.
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    She then started saying that I know how much her dogs mean to her and if I loved her, I would value them as much as I value her. I told her I value her a lot more than she can imagine. But when it comes to saving my niece or the dogs, there is no ambiguity... it's always gonna be my niece.
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    She even mentioned how I should even save the dogs before her. I told her the only other being I would put before her is our child, when we have one. Otherwise I would always save her before her pets.
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    Since then she is been giving me a hard time. She has also been acting different with the dogs. I used to feed the dogs every morning, now she rushes to do it so I don't do it. She takes them on walk by herself without telling me and is essentially trying to take me out of the equation when it comes with the dogs.
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    I talked to her about it yesterday and she said she is not sure she wants to marry me anymore because I don't value her fur babies. Mmh
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    jamicam 6 days ago She's not mature enough to be getting married. 9.2k Reply Share
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    AffectionateBite3827. 6 days ago . edited 5 days ago I don't think she's mature enough for a houseplant.
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    TurbulentTurtle 2000. 6 days ago She's doing you a massive favor. Let her. 1.6k Reply Share
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    Reallynoreallyno⚫ 5 days ago I would be upset with her for being so cavalier about watching his niece (who he loves as a child) die, he should be mad at her! Way too young to be getting married, this will not end well.
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    Crosswired2 · 5 days ago The fact OP isn't the one that called off the wedding is crazy.
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    F ckStummies · 5 days ago When people show you who they really are, believe them.
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    mak-ina-myn 6 days ago • "You know how much her dogs mean to her ...." WHAT ABOUT YOUR HUMAN NIECE??
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    OP it's over, even if for no other reason than you now know she would save her dogs over any person - not just family, your beloved niece - in her proposed life or death situation.
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    trying3216 6 days ago I would save YOUR niece over MY dog. It's no contest. 2.0k Reply Share
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    super_bluecat. 6 days ago The fact that she wants to break up with you over an unlikely hypothetical situation means that she is not mature enough to get married. And probably you, too, for that matter. If you interviewed every person you met for the next 20 years, you probably would not meet one single person who had to decide whether to save a pet over a human.
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    But this is the reason for both of you to dig in your heels and blow up your relationship over it? Ok, maybe it's not a maturity thing. But there has to be more to this than about the hypothetical fire. 1.8k② Reply Share

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